Do you feel like you are always giving and never receiving? My question for you then is this - are you being open to receiving?
Sometimes we’ll start to feel like people don’t care about us or don’t appreciate us or that they’re not giving to us. What I’ve discovered is it’s not that the people in our lives, like our loved ones, don’t give to us. It’s that we’re not open to receiving from them.
This can be caused by a few things:
We may struggle to receive because as givers we are conditioned to give and give and give, yet it can feel like we don’t know how to receive.
This can be as simple as if somebody says to you, “Oh my gosh. You look so beautiful today. I love that dress”. Right away, you get all uncomfortable and say, “Oh, this old thing?” or “I got this off the sales rack.” You are unable to receive the compliment.
I invite you to allow that to land with you....
Miscommunication is rampant in relationships and causes a great deal of destruction. It’s the times when we say one thing and another thing is understood, and the times when we say nothing and quiet damage occurs.
What we say and what someone hears and understands are two different things. It’s often like the children’s game telephone: the first person in the line whispers something, and by the time it reaches the last person, the message has become something else entirely.
Humans have many different ways to communicate, and each person has a unique way of doing this. Sometimes it can feel like we are two people speaking two different languages, yelling at each other but not understanding what the other is saying.
We can get caught in the trap of believing that we are speaking perfectly clearly and that the other person can understand our way of communicating. This assumption brings us into the dangerous territory of believing that the person we’re speaking...
What is good for you is good for everyone. If you find yourself in a situation where your intuition is yelling at you, remember, you don’t have to push through.
Lean into your inner knowing and allow it to guide you through your decisions. Kick the guilt to the side for a while and begin to lean into the flow of your life. You don’t need to, have to, could, or should…. (fill in the blank).
Be proud of yourself for taking the time to listen to your intuition and stand in your truth.
In situations where you are honouring yourself and your intuition, often your ego will pop up and use the guilt, need to, have to, should, could etc. to try and get you to default back to doing what you think you should.
To work with your ego say, “I see you. I hear you. I know you think I should do this. This is a commitment to me. To honouring myself.”
Refrain from battling with your ego. Acknowledge and honour your ego. And then come back and trust that you are exactly...
Today we are exploring what you want your relationship to be.
When we find ourselves in flux, so desperately wanting to change the trajectory of our relationship, we need to decide to do so. We need to become aware of and change old patterns. We need to try something we’ve never tried before because what we’re used to doing just isn’t working.
Turning against our beloved and telling them all the things they do that are wrong and where they are failing is only going to cause more damage. If we want change, we must consciously create the relationship we desire.
Our power lies in making the decision that we want something to be different. Then deciding what that looks like and taking the steps to make it happen.
First, you and your beloved must decide what your ultimate relationship vision is. What do you want your ideal relationship to look like, to feel like, to be like? Allow yourself to dream. To imagine what your ideal relationship looks like.
“Stop bruising your soul for everything you’re not.
Start loving yourself for everything you are.”
Today I’m called to share this message with you:
If you want to create the life you dream of, you must first stop bruising your soul for everything you’re not.
Start loving ourselves for everything you are.
This is the foundation of self love and it’s key to having a life where you feel happy!
When we are critical of ourselves. When we focus on everything that we are not. We’ll hit a point where it can become difficult to identify what we love about ourselves because we are so focused on what we aren’t.
Where to start building your self love:
1) Stop The Self Criticism
We are often our own biggest critics. We spend a great deal of time focusing on what we have done wrong, what is wrong with us, what we wish we were, what we are lacking. We spend hours and hours putting ourselves down.
Become aware of your tendencies to:
In today’s blog post, we are bringing our attention to relationships. More precisely, we are turning our gaze to ourselves.
Only after we understand and nourish ourselves by taking care of our needs can we then be ready to dive deeply into the inner workings of our relationship with our beloved.
First, we must steady our own self, because if we aren’t happy in ourselves, if we aren’t paying attention to our needs, development and growth, it’s unlikely that we’ll be able to experience happiness in our relationship. Our relationship can only be as happy as we are. It begins with us.
To begin to clean up your side of the street, we must change our mindset and realize that taking care of ourselves isn’t selfish; it’s necessary. We cannot take care of others if we are not filling our tank up first.
When we are not taking care of ourselves we seek fulfillment of our needs from external sources—often our relationship with our beloved....
This week’s post is for all you mamas out there who are overwhelmed with life. Who are overwhelmed with trying to keep all the balls in the air.
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I get it. I know what it’s like to feel frazzled and to feel like I’m completely and utterly overwhelmed. I wanted to share with you a couple of tips that you can use to calm yourself down when you’re getting to that point where you feel like everything is escalating, where if one more thing happens you just might snap.
What do I mean by snap?
It's when we feel ourselves escalating. It’s almost like this energy is coming up through our bodies, and we can feel it just getting to a point where we’re not sure if we’re going to be able to hold it in any longer.
When you get to that point where you’ve asked your kids to do something over and over and over again and they’re just not listening or when your baby keeps waking up in the middle of the night and...
Today I’m so excited to share with you how to best live with intention in our lives.
I'll introduce you to the process that I’ve learned, which is choosing three words that we use to live with more intention in our lives, so we can fully show up as our best selves.
This is an exercise that I learned from one of my mentors, Brendon Burchard, and I love using it. I use it in my own life to really live into more and more of who I want to become, and also with all of my clients, so that they can decide who they want to be and intentionally live into that.
What I wanted to do today is just take a little time to close our eyes and I’ll walk you through the process of first choosing those three words that you’d like to use to become more present and live with intention in your life.
If you’ll play along with me, just closing your eyes, and I’ll do the same, so you’re not the only one. Just closing your eyes here for a second, taking a...
Today we are going to talk about trusting ourselves. The reality is is that we need to begin to trust ourselves and trust those gut instincts that we get.
Too often we spend time questioning, right? Say you walk into a room and you get this feeling like something's off, but you can't explain why so you push that feeling away. Don't push those feelings away. Let's today make the commitment that we are going to begin to listen to ourselves, to listen to those little red flags that pop up, to listen to those gut instincts that we have, to listen to the little hair that stands up on the back of our necks. Too often we're not listening. We're ignoring. We're justifying. We're pushing those instincts away.
That's out inner voice. That's what's speaking to us and that's what's giving us guidance in our lives. If we don't hone into it, and if we keep shutting it down, and silencing it, then we aren't living from our greatest selves. We're living from a place...
The reality is is that often we sit around and we’re like, "I want to be happy, I want to feel happier, I’m just not happy in my life."
Happiness is not something that happens to you. Happiness is something that you generate. You can generate happiness. And with that comes great control over your own happiness.
So this is an exciting topic because often we feel very disempowered and we believe: "well, I’m just not happy. My life is just not going the way that I want, I’m not happy in my marriage, my kids are driving me crazy, I don’t have the job that I want, one day when I reach this point in my life, one day when I have more money in the bank, one day when I graduate from university, one day when my children are older, one day when, one day when, one day when."
Does this sound familiar to you? The reality is that happiness is not going to be something that happens to you. It’s not something in the far off future that’s going...