Today I’m so excited to share with you how to best live with intention in our lives.
I'll introduce you to the process that I’ve learned, which is choosing three words that we use to live with more intention in our lives, so we can fully show up as our best selves.
This is an exercise that I learned from one of my mentors, Brendon Burchard, and I love using it. I use it in my own life to really live into more and more of who I want to become, and also with all of my clients, so that they can decide who they want to be and intentionally live into that.
What I wanted to do today is just take a little time to close our eyes and I’ll walk you through the process of first choosing those three words that you’d like to use to become more present and live with intention in your life.
If you’ll play along with me, just closing your eyes, and I’ll do the same, so you’re not the only one. Just closing your eyes here for a second, taking a deep breath in through your nose and out through your mouth. In through your nose and out through your mouth. One last breath in through your nose and out through your mouth.
Now, we’ll just take a second to think about who it is that you want to become. What are the characteristics that you would like to be described as by people, by your children, by your friends and your family and the people that you cross on the street? What are the three words that you would want them to describe you as?
These are the three words that would be your ideal self, the three words that you would like to be known as. These may be three thing that you already do and you just continue to want to be more and more of those things, or they could be three things that you’re wanting to be more of, these three characteristics.
Just take a few seconds here to think about what these three words may be. What would you like to be more of?
I won’t take too much time here, just because this is a vlog, so we don’t want to sit here in this silent state for too long, but just taking some time. You can do this after the video as well to figure out what these three words might be. I’ll share with you mine and some others that other people have used that I know. Maybe that will help you come up with your three words.
Just opening our eyes now, and that’s awesome. Even if you’ve come up with one word or if you have come up with three, that’s fantastic.
What these words are meant to do is to set ourselves into living with intention to live more into those words. For example, I’ll show you what my three words are.
I actually change them over and over, as time goes on, but the first time I ever did this exercise, I these were my three words. I don’t know if you can see that. We’ve got a bit of a glare. They’re authentic, confident and inspiring. These were the three words that I wanted to become more and more of.
If people were to describe me, I wanted to be described as being authentic, because I used to wear this mask that hid my true self. I was like, “Oh.” People would say, “How are you?” I would say, “I’m great! Everything’s fantastic,” and really, in the background, I was falling to pieces. As I went on this journey, I was like, “I wanna be able to be totally me,” to be authentic and to just be exactly who I am and be real about what’s happening. That’s the first word that I choose.
The second one was confident. I wanted to be confident in everything that I did. I knew that what that meant for me was that a lot of time my knees would be shaking and my voice would be shaking and I’d be stepping out of my comfort zone, but I wanted to do that. I wanted to show up in a way that I was being confident in stepping out of my comfort zone. I might not be perfect. I might not have it all figured out, but that I was going to step out and be confident that I was OK being outside of my comfort zone.
Then the third one was inspiring. Inspiring was that I wanted to inspire other people in my life, whether it be my kids or my family or my friends or the people on the street, it didn’t matter. I wanted to be an inspiration by living into my true self and my best self and being authentic and real with myself and leading by example with this ripple effect going out. I just wanted to be inspiring in everything that I did.
Those were my three words. As you can see, the first thing that I suggest that you do with these three words is create a visual of some sort. This one, I created it on Canva and then I printed it out. I framed it, because I wanted to look at it every day, especially before I did a video like this or met with a client or did a presentation or anything that was making me feel little uncomfortable.
Before I had a conversation with my husband about something that we needed to talk about, I would sit down, I would look at my words. I would say, “OK. I’m authentic, I’m confident and I’m inspiring.” That’s one way that I use the words.
You can make a visual like this, or I did this in a workshop that I ran the other night. There were more recent words for me. I don’t know if you can see those OK. This was courageous, present and authentic. Authentic always shows up for me. Courageous was just continuing to step out of my comfort zone. Present was being present in the moment.
These words change for me. I utilize them in lots of different ways. You can just make a visual just like this. You might be a better artist than me, but this is all you need. Just something like this.
The other way you can use it is take your phone and make a little alarm and have the description of the alarm be your three words. For me, it would be authentic, inspiring, confident. I have it set for 10 o’clock on the morning, at two o’clock in the afternoon. It pops up. Goes off, and it’s like, “Oh.” Just a little reminder. This is how I want to be living my life, authentically, confidently and inspiring.
Another way that you can use this is to tap it into your body. I’ll quickly show you how to do that. You take your three words and you begin up here, on your forehead. You just say the three words three times. Authentic, confident, inspiring. Authentic, confident, inspiring. Authentic, confident, inspiring. You would say your three words.
Under your eyes. Authentic, confident, inspiring. Authentic, confident, inspiring. Authentic, confident, inspiring. Under your nose. Authentic, confident, inspiring. Authentic, confident, inspiring. Authentic, confident, inspiring. Just do this along with me with your three words. Authentic, confident, inspiring. Authentic, confident, inspiring. Authentic, confident, inspiring.
Behind your ears. Authentic, confident, inspiring. Authentic, confident, inspiring. Authentic, confident, inspiring. On top of your head. Authentic, confident, inspiring. Authentic, confident, inspiring. Authentic, confident, inspiring.
On your chest, you’d say, “I am,” before you do do it on your chest. I am authentic. I am confident. I am inspiring. I am authentic. I am confident. I am inspiring. I am authentic. I am confident. I am inspiring. Then you just let that sit into your body.
These words, if you ingrain or integrate, whichever words you want to use, these words into your daily life and they become a part of not even who you want to be, but how you want to show up in your life, so that you can live your best life, your fullest life is use them.
Look at them. Remember them before you walk into a big meeting or before you have to have a hard conversation with one of your kid’s teachers or with your husband or a colleague or your boss. You’re giving a presentation and you’re nervous or whatever it is.
Do any of those. Look at them. Visualize. You can say them to yourself. You can look at your alarm, have that go off right before your big meeting or your big presentation. You can wake up in the morning and do the tapping. I’ve seen people before they walk into a big meeting or something that’s making them nervous, they’ll do I think they call it a doorjamb.
Sorry. As you know, I just record these for you, and it’s all about being raw and authentic. There are no second takes or anything. Just play along with me here.
Anyway, the whole idea is that the doorjamb is your trigger. That’s what it is, the doorjamb trigger. As you walk into the room, it’s like you hit that doorjamb and then you say those three words to yourself. Authentic, confident, inspiring. Whatever your three words are.
I work with clients who have like loyal, decisive, present, kind, brave. Whatever words really resonate with you, choose those. You could put leader. There are so many things that you can choose. I really suggest just switching these up every three to six months, because that will help you live with more intention and to grow even more.
I hope that this has been helpful for you, that it can give you one tool, anyways, to use to live with more intention in your life, so that you can experience the best life possible and to really feel fulfilled in your life.
Until next week, connect authentically, love unconditionally and trustfully.
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